What does it mean being a Filipina and how does it feel being one? How are we represented in our society and who are we in the eyes of others? Sadly,I think huge part of our image as Pinay's is being stereotyped.And based on my observation,we are usually stereotyped as a Filipina as follows; 1) MAIDS /DOMESTIC HELPERFACT
I would often come across books,tv shows and movies who always represent Pinays as "just maids" and some even make fun of us.But it's fine with me because I'm sure we are not the only one's being stereotyped.But it doesn't give anyone the right to make fun or to look down on maids.I mean what's wrong being a maid? It's a decent job and some are really happy with what they do.People should give them a little respect. Recently,a certain De Diva posted a really racist comment against Pinay's when Megan Young won as Miss World 2013.Again,we are being stereotyped here.She posted this on FB and noticed there are some who actually liked her post. Here's what happened after her controversial FB status .Megan didn't even need to say anything because netizens speak for her.And guess what... Another sad thing,if you regularly watch the evening news you will always come across certain news of Pinay DH specially in Middle east being raped or abused by their employers. The list is endless.It can go on and on and it's very painful watching it.Yes,we might be stereotyped as maids to other countries because everywhere in the world there are Pinay maids.And here in our country,we admire them and look up to them because they are all doing this for their loved ones.But having said that,overseas employers sometimes treat each DH like they own her soul.Like they paid ang buong pagkatao nya.And because of that treatment,it sometimes harbour to rape and abuse. Dito sa atin,marami sa kanila may pinag aralan.Dito sa atin,mga College graduate yung karamahin dyan pero pinili na manilbihan bilang DH sa ibang bansa dahil walang mapasukan na matino dito sa atin.Kaysa nakatambay,piniling mangibang bayan para may maipakain sa pamilya. Ito ang hindi alam ng mga taong nanlalait sa atin.Pero kahit anong paliwanag ang gawin mo,di nila maiintindihan yun dahil wala silang alam sa pinagdaanan mo kaya dapat di natin sinasayang ang ating lakas sa kanila.Hindi mo na yan mababago.Hayaan mo,darating ang panahon mababago din yan pag lumawak ang kaalaman nila tungkol sa atin. Karamihan naman kasi sa mga nagsasalita ng di maganda ay walang alam sa atin.Sa trabaho ko,karamihan sa mga taong nakausap ko na may kakilala,katrabaho o kaibigan na Pinay ay masaya at tuwang tuwa sa atin.Ibig sabihin,madalas ang taong nagsasabi ng masasama ata laban sayo ay walang alam sayo.Kaya dapat wag sayangin ang attentsyon sa kanila. 2) WIFE MATERIALWhat do they all share in common? Lahat sila Pinay ang nanay :) I wonder why is it easy for foreigners to marry a Pinay while it's rare to see Filipino men married to foreigners? And take note,most of them are really very good looking! Are Pinays really wife material? Is it a good thing or a bad thing? Who didn't hear of MAIL ORDER BRIDE? Go to google and start checking some online dating websites,you will notice lots of male perverts over seas looking for Pinay brides. In my opininion,here are some possible reasons why foreigners prefer Filipino women (they are just my opinion based on some casual talk I had with few)
But wait,there's more.Here's the annoying part...
I was on a computer shop the other day and I noticed a woman flirting with her chat mate,a very old man.She was wearing a low cut sleeveless t-shirt revealing her cleavage and a very short shorts.And she was wearing heavy make up.At first,I was puzzled what does a woman who dressed like that doing in a middle of young online game addicts.So I took glance on her computer and I was disgusted with what I saw on her monitor.After a few minutes,a child I suppose was her son told her he's hungry since it's lunch time already.Instead of feeding her child,she yanked him instead shooing him away not to disturb her. Kulang na lang masampal ko yung nanay sa inis ko pero syempre di ko ginawa yun.Una sa lahat,di ko sya kilala at pangalawa baka makasuhan ako ng domestic violence at pangingialam.Sa sobrang inis ko,ako na lang ang lumayas habang sya,tuloy pa din sa pakikipag sex chat.
Pero ang totoo naman talaga,pantawid gutom.Kaya di natin masisi yung mga foreigners kung tingin nila sa atin gold diggers.Pero di ko sila kinukunsinti.Nakakainis nga pero yun ang katotohanan.
Oh,I've got proof... Pero ang tanong,hangang sex symbol lang ba ang worth ng isang Pinay? Hanggang wife material or maid lang ba? Matagal nang panahon na ito ang representation natin sa iba.
For me,we can go protesting we are not "just maids" or "mail order brides" or "sex symbol" if we are doing anything to change their perception on us.Let me just clear this out,there's nothing wrong in being a maid or married to a foreigner.But the thing is we can be better than that.
Naiinis talaga ako when someone treats me based on stereotyped image.Sobrang kakapikon yun.How many times have I talked to someone over the phone asking me if I can be his bride or they flirt with me over the phone knowing I'm a Filipina.In the first place,di po sex line ang trabaho ko.I work as customer service. So I guess,the bottomline is we should be responsible in every actions we do.Because what ever we do and say,we always represent something or someone.And even if you don't care what other people think of you,sometimes you have to know that we are interconnected believe it or not.In everything we do,it will surely affect someone in big or small ways. I really hope someday foreigners will see as as someone of worth than just a wife or a sex symbol.Even as early as now,majority of us are well known in other fields such as business,engineering,medicine and other fields.It just that sometimes,people tend to be fixated with the negative things over the good things.We are like one whole clean bond paper with a small dot in the center.No matter how clean the paper,if there's a stain or a dot somewhere,one will notice it no matter how small it is and sometimes it goes with life. Hoping....
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Jen ;)
11/27/2013 12:40:23 pm
Hi Glow, I've just read this article and it was great! A lot of things you said was true but that doesn't make me not te be proud being a filipina. *proudtobePINOY*
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glow
12/3/2013 06:20:54 pm
Hi Jen,I'm glad I have one fan,hahaha...
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