PRINCIPLES OUTLINEby: Sherry Argov The bitch is an ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #1
He runs because the woman’s behavior doesn’t suggest that she places a high value on herself A dreamgirl, on the other hand, won’t kill herself to impress anyone ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #2 The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much. A bitch is more selective about her availability. She’s available sometimes; other times she’s not. But she’s nice. Nice enough, that is, to consider his preferences for when he’d like to see her so that she can sometimes accommodate them When a nice girl overcompensates, her behavior says, “What I have to offer isn’t enough, and who I am isn’t enough.” The bitch, on the other hand, gives a very different message. “Who I am is enough. Take it or leave it.” ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #4 Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond. ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #5 If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #6 It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. A beautiful woman can make herself look ugly in the eyes of a man if she is very insecure. Never assume you are not attractive enough, and therefore you have to overcompensate or chase a man. Taste is subjective. One man’s “ugly” is another man’s “beautiful.” The first date is about looks. When he falls in love, it’s about your attitude. It’s about whether you can hold your own. Which is all about how you hold yourself. If a man takes you to a boxing match, a strip joint, or a place he might typically hang out with a bunch of guys, he’s telling you by the choices he is making that he doesn’t plan to have you around that long. If this is where he takes you on a first date, don’t go out with him a second time. When you show your shape, but don’t expose every inch, the “unwrapping of the gift” becomes much more stimulating. If he has to unbutton an item of clothing to get to what he wants to see, it turns him on more. Don’t let the advertisements on TV be your guide. The woman who sustains a man’s interest is not the one who feels confident because of a particular miniskirt, a belly ring, or a black dress with a plunging neckline. A bitch doesn’t rely on these things to feel good about herself. She relies on who she is as a woman. “He should accept me as I am!” says the woman who is too nice. Accept you? Oh no, sister. Slap yourself. He should want you madly. Acceptance has nothing to do with it. He accepts a doormat. But he desires his dreamgirl. If you want acceptance, go to a self-help group ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #8 The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. =============================================================== One of the things women have to get out of their mindset is the notion of what a bitch is. A bitch is nice. She’s sweet as a Georgia peach. She smiles and she is feminine. She just doesn’t make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. ============================================================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #9 If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else. =============================================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #10 When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her. ============================================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE # 11 Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. =========================================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #12 A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests ==================================================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #13 Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl. ============================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #14 If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. ================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #15 Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is ============================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #16 A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then . . . he sets out to trap her in his. =========================== Men are hunters, and like any hunting animal, they are more intrigued by conquering prey when it resists the predator. Most men are turned on by a bitch because it’s a thrill to take down a powerful woman. ================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #17 If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. ============================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #18 Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard ================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #19 More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him. ==ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #20 He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. ================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #21 If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take time to appreciate who she is. ========================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #22 Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same. A Sweeter Victory ========================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #23 Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t. ======================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #24 Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. ==================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #25 A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him. ================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #26 Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort. ================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #28 If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. ====================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #29 A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. =========================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #30 Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself. ============================== “If any woman can steal a guy away from me, then she can have him because I wouldn’t want him anymore.” ======================================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #31 When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock. =========================== In order to motivate a man to give, he must feel good when he gives. He wants to feel appreciated and revered. =============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #33 When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way. ============================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #34 When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete. ==================================== Men need a little coaching, and the way to coach them is to praise them when they behave well -================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #35 He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dream girl. ================================== Agree with everything. Explain nothing. ================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #36 The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters. ========================================= Remember, feminine strength is equally as powerful. It’s poetic justice: Men control the world, but women control the men. ======================================= Most men know it’s a turn-on to a woman if they do romantic things, but women don’t understand that giving men the feeling of power has the same effect. It melts them like butter. It is a goodnatured way of gaining leverage in your relationship. ================================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #37 If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world. ======================= Here’s what Albert Einstein said about his wife on their fiftieth wedding anniversary: When we first got married, we made a pact. It was this: In our life together, it was decided I would make all of the big decisions and my wife would make all of the little decisions. For fifty years, we have held true to that agreement. I believe that is the reason for the success in our marriage. However, the strange thing is that in fifty years, there hasn’t been one big decision. ============================================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #38 When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. ======================== The hardest lesson for the nice girl to learn is how to receive. Let him give to you, because part of his manhood is defined by feeling “responsible.” =================================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #39 Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. ================================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #40 Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. ============================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #41 Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another. ============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #42 When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; He feels LUCKY =================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #43 If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner. ==================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #44 Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. ================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #45 A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. ===================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #46 The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship. ======================================= When you have control of yourself, you don’t need to be emotional all the time ================================================ You have a life. You have other priorities, some of which come before him. ============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #47 You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” ================================== Let him work out his own stuff. If he can’t treat himself well, he’ll never treat you well. ======================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #48 You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed. ========================================= The bitch never tries that hard to make an impression. ================================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #49 Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior. -================================== LET'S REPLACE. . . WITH. . . “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” “Do unto others, after they show you they are worthy”. “Love conquers all.” “Love conquers her, when she gives all.” “To give is better than to receive.” “It is better to give and receive.” “Charity begins at home.” “There is no charity case in this home.” “All’s well that ends well.” “All’s well for those who cover their ‘ends’ well.” “Love thy neighbor.” “Love thyself first, and your neighbor will be happier living next to you.” ============================================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #50 The nice girl gives away too much of herself. when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself ============================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #51 The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. ============================================== “Well done is better than well said.” =================================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #52 When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. ===================================== Your reaction determines whether he’ll take one step closer or another step farther away. ============================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #53 When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still “right there.” =================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #54 When the routine becomes predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother—and the odds that he will take you for granted increase. ==================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #55 Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you-- right where he wants you. ========================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #56 When you treat him casually as though he’s a friend, he’ll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also wants to be the pursuer. ==================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #57 A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. ================================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #58 A man takes a woman for granted when he’s interested, but will no longer go out of his way. ====================================== When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. ============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #60 If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing it, he’ll want his chores back. =================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #61 When you nag, he sees weakness. ========================= As John Churton Collins said, “Never claim as a right what you can ask as a favor.” Nagging makes it a right; asking for a favor makes it a positive experience. He’ll come running to help if he’s going to be praised. Just as a woman wants to be perceived as a “dream girl” to a man, a man wants to be perceived as a “hero” in his woman’s eyes. ======================== Expressing yourself when he takes you for granted doesn’t work. You have to show him with actions. Expressing your feelings constantly is like pleading. It comes across as needy rather than dignified. But backing away when he crosses the line? Plenty dignified. ======================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #63 In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect. ==================================== (See? Why argue your case when you can get him to argue it for you?) =============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #64 He’ll forget what he has in you . . . unless you remind him. =========================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #65 Many women talk a lot out of nervousness-- which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity. ================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #66 Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. ===================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #67 Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. ******** "men don’t respond to words." ================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #68 In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he’ll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long. =========================== “If you appear weak, people take advantage of you. Some men think if you open up too much, a woman will use it against you.” ============================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #69 Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool” because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate. =================================== I said “romance,” and men thought sex. I said “passion,” and they thought sex. I said “new experiences,” and they thought about sex. I said, “variety”, and they responded with a question, “You mean sex, right?” Given this, the most obvious thing men would want a woman to take away from a conversation on the subject of how to keep the passion alive is with respect to . . . you guessed it . . . sex! ======================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #70 The element of surprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement. ================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #71 Don’t always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn’t become a predictable routine. The Top Fifteen Things That Turn Men Off =========================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #72 Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable. =============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #73 Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on. ============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #74 Men often automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid. The Top Ten Ways to Tell Whether a Man Is in Love =============================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #75 When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. ================================== She doesn’t realize that she becomes so involved in him that she loses herself, and in the process, she risks losing him as well. ========================================= “Elegance does not consist of putting on a new dress.” =============================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #76 He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own two feet financially. ========================================= If a woman gives up her independence and becomes financially dependent on a man, she’ll have far fewer choices in life. She’ll end up at someone else’s beck and call. She’ll be at someone else’s mercy. This is why a woman should maintain her independence, her “pink slip,” and full ownership of herself. Work = Money = Keeping your pink slip = The ability to choose the way you want to be treated = Dignity ====================================== A bitch will usually maintain her independence and contribute to the relationship in some way because her pride won’t allow her to be perceived as a burden on someone else. And she won’t put herself in a position where she can’t rock the boat, which she will do if and when she feels that she isn’t being regarded highly enough. It’s important to let him know you place your dignity above all else, even if you’re dating a very successful man. He has to feel that, if he mistreats you, you’ll pack up and move out of his mansion into a one-bedroom without any hesitation. ============================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #77 You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect. ==================================== If you can take care of yourself, everything he gives you becomes gravy. He isn’t providing the whole meatloaf. The whole four courses. He doesn’t provide you with your livelihood. ===================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #78 Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own—with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely at his mercy. ================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #79 When a man views a woman as a “little girl” or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn’t want to make love to his sister. ============================================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #80 The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that will give you more power than any material object ever will. ================================== The ability to remain an independent thinker is what keeps his interest and the mental challenge. The ability to make your own choices in life is your most important tool. It is the very thing that gives you power. Not only will he tell you what you should have, the man who is paying all the bills will eventually begin to tell you what you like or don’t like as well. He won’t ask for your opinion, he’ll tell you what your opinion should be. It sets you up to be treated like a Barbie doll that he can control. ========================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #81 In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person. ======================================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #82 Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has a 100 percent hold on you. ====================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #83 Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on. =========================== “Power is the great aphrodisiac.” ============================ If a man gives you something, show him the respect he deserves by thanking him for the kindness. If you want to be treated well, you have to encourage it by making him feel important and special whenever he does something generous and gracious. Otherwise, he won’t have an incentive to do it again. ============================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #84 When a man is very consumed with not being taken advantage of, this is a sign that he’s “on the take.” ====================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #85 People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight. ======================== Instead of Asking Him to Focus on You, Focus on Yourself ============================ ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #86 The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. ==================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #87 If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. ======================== “If you can’t convince ’em, confuse ’em.” =============== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #88 When you alter the routine, your not being there at times is what will make him come around. Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is no contact. =================== Never stop living your life. Take a class. Develop a hobby. Meet people. You are only as interesting as the depths of your own interests. ========= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #89 Don’t give a reward for bad behavior. ================================= ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #90 He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. ====================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #91 If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. ===================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #92 Often the best way to adjust or fix the problem is by not letting him know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable routine, it will mentally pull him back in. ================================== A very effective way to put a man in his place or to keep him in check is with humor. You can let him know in a fun, playful way that your security as a woman doesn’t depend on him. A sense of humor is more than just finding something funny to say; it’s about a person’s composure. It lets people know you are comfortable in your skin. =========================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #93 Once you start laughing, you start healing. =================== Humor not only defuses a situation, it also makes you come out smelling like a rose ==================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #94 You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face. ===================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #95 A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. The Bitch Is Never Fully Conquered ===================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #96 The tension that arises with a slightly bitchy woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man. He feels slightly unsure because she is never in the palm of his hand. =================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #97 A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. ========================= Eddie Murphy once said in an interview: “The best advice I ever heard is, don’t take anyone else’s advice.” ============ The minute someone else can dictate what you think or how you feel about yourself, you are at their mercy. This attitude also influences success in many other areas. As long as you let someone else make decisions regarding your career, dreams, or aspirations, you’ve limited yourself drastically. You’ll only be as good as that person allows you to become. ======================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #98 Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way. ===================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #99 Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. ========================= As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ========================= A man wants something he doesn’t see every day. Not in terms of a redhead versus a blonde. He wants the rare woman who can think for herself. ================== Don’t ever let anyone shake your faith in yourself, because that’s really all that you have. =================== ATTRACTION PRINCIPLE #100 The most attractive quality of all is dignity. SUMMARY Over all,it is a very entertaining book .And yes,this topic is new to me.It is very informative specially to inexperienced jerks like me.However,before one decide to follow any of the 100 principles mentioned here,there are few things that should be taken for reconsideration.I would like to mention few important factors ... A) CULTURE This is a book writen in an American perspective.Americans specially women are known as wilder and more articulate when it comes to self expression.In the Phillippines,we are more conservative.We have a unique Filipina character like "being mahinhin".If you're a woman and you're loud then most of the men around you will be disgusted.I don't know about other countries but I'm sure there are still few men who appreciate conservative women. My mother for example.Mom has a strong personality.She wanted things her own way.My step father never win over her.He follows everything that my mom wanted.So is it cool? No! My step dad lose respect because he was always the center of jokes.He was laugh upon by his mates for being "under de saya".I pity him but mom is really dominating.Probably in other countries,mom is an epitome of a strong woman but here in our country she is a disgrace and her character is being frowned upon. B) IT'S A CASE TO CASE BASIS Before you decide to play the "hard to get,unaffected and bitchy atittude" one must consider what kind of man they are dealing with.Like I've seen couples separated because the woman don't know how to take care of his man.Some men appreciate thoughtful women.Some men don't see it as a way to dominate a woman but it is their basis if the woman they are dating can be a future mother to his children.Yes,any woman would be offended if men treated them like a servant or a mother but I think some men would really love to see women they can picture a mother to their kids.That's the huge difference.American's culture is so different from ours.In my observation,most Americans have sex to the guy before they go dating.Or most Americans would date for the sake of dating.While here,one courts a woman they can picture as a future bride.I mean men eye for a long term relationship sometimes that's why it always depend on the situation. Those men they claimed they interviewed for this book only speaks for themselves.It also goes with me,I can only speak for myself.I think we are put all together with a unique purpose.That is to find our unique paths in life specially in building our relationships with people around us.Some can relate to the principles pointed here.Or some will agree to everything mentioned.As for me,I agree but not all. There were few things mentioned that I strongly agree.Among others,I agree to the fact that any woman should still have her dignity to herself whatever happens.Lots of women,even the geekiest of all when they fall in love can lose their heads and themselves.In all fairness,sometimes it's hard to be at your best when you fall in love real hard.It's hard to keep your cool when you love the person so much.So in a way,I think this book is helpful in a women empowerment sort of thing. The bottomline is,everything should be balanced.You can't be too nice or too lousy.You can't be too self centered but you can't be too selfless.It's always best to be in between.But the best thing I learned from here is just be yourself,don't lose yourself.Don't let the guys decide for you.You have to have a stand as a woman.And yes,I agree that women should have other stuff to be busy with probably a job or organizations or clubs to join.I agree that one of the worst thing that makes housewives lose self confident is not having any money of their own.They depend on their husbands.And it's a pressure to the husband but if you are stuck as a house wife forever,you can loose yourself in the process specially if your husband sees you as just a house wife material. I'm just stating based on what I observed around me.Having a career of your own is really a self booster.Your family depends on you instead of you depending on them.Your husband or boyfriend will not belittle you.You have a say on certain issues that might come along.One fact that I observe is when you are earning on your own,people respect you specially if your family depends on you financially.(This might only apply in country but not others) They obey you.They listen to you.But the most important thing is money isn't always the answer.Dignity is.You don't need to be forever enslaved to anyone.You are more confident.This book is good because it presented all forms of POV's.Whether you are a mother,a young pro in search of a lover.Or just dating.You can learn lots of stuff here. Good book! MY REVIEW Over all,it is a very entertaining book .And yes,this topic is new to me.It is very informative specially to inexperienced jerks like me.However,before one decide to follow any of the 100 principles mentioned here,there are few things that should be taken for reconsideration.I would like to mention few things.... A) CULTURE This is a book writen in an American perspective.Americans specially women are known as wilder and more articulate in expressing themselves.Most Pinays are more of conservative type sort of way.We have a unique Filipina character like "being mahinhin"or "dalagang Pilipina" though this Pinay characters are close to extinction,I'm still convince it still exists.If you're Pinay and you're loud then most of the men around you will be disgusted.I don't know about other countries but I'm sure there are still few men who appreciate conservative women. My mother for example.Mom has a strong personality.She wanted things her own way.My step father never win over her.My mom is really bitchy to him.Is it cool? No! My step dad lose respect because he was always the center of jokes.He was laugh upon by his mates for being "under de saya".I pity him but mom is really dominating.Probably in other countries,mom is an epitome of a strong woman but here in our country she is a disgrace and her character is being frowned upon. B) IT'S A CASE TO CASE BASIS Before you decide to play the "hard to get,unaffected and bitchy atittude" one must consider what kind of man they are dealing with.Like I've seen couples separated because the woman don't know how to take care of his man.Some men appreciate thoughtful women.Some men don't see it as a way to dominate a woman but it is their basis if the woman they are dating can be a future mother to his children.Yes,I've met few men like them!Yes,any woman would be offended if men treated them like a servant or a mother but I think some men would really date women they can picture as a mother to their future kids.That's the huge difference between between a Pinay and an American.Their culture is so different from ours.In my observation,most Americans go for sex first before dating.Or most Americans would date for the sake of fun without really meaning it.Pinoys in general courts a woman they can picture to have long term relationship.I mean men eye for a long term relationship sometimes that's why it always depend on the situation. Those men they claimed they interviewed for this book only speaks for themselves.It also goes with me,I can only speak for myself.I think we are put all together with a unique purpose.That is to find our unique paths in life specially in building our relationships with people around us.Some can relate to the principles pointed here.Or some will agree to everything mentioned.As for me,I agree but not all.AS I said before,it all depends on where we are standing. There were few things mentioned that I strongly agree like for example the principle on not loosing yourself. Any woman should still have her dignity whatever happens.Lots of women,even the geekiest of all when they fall in love can lose their heads and themselves.In all fairness,sometimes it's hard to be at your best when you fall in love real hard.It's hard to keep your cool when you love the person so much.So in a way,I think this book is helpful in a women empowerment sort of thing. The bottomline is,everything should be balanced.You can't be too nice or too lousy.You can't be too self centered but you can't be too selfless either.It's always best to be in between.But the best thing I learned from here is just be yourself,don't lose yourself.Don't let the guys decide for you.You have to have a stand as a woman.And yes,I agree that women should have other stuff to be busy with probably a job or organizations or clubs to join.I agree that one of the worst thing that makes housewives lose self confident is not having any money of their own.They depend on their husbands.And it's a pressure to the husband and if you are stuck as a house wife forever,you can loose yourself in the process specially if your husband sees you as just a house wife material. I'm just stating based on what I observed around me.Having a career of your own is really a self booster.Your family depends on you instead of you depending on them.Your husband or boyfriend will not belittle you.You have a say on certain issues that might come along.One fact that I observe is when you are earning on your own,people respect you specially if your family depends on you financially.(This might only apply in our country) They obey you.They listen to you.But the most important thing is money isn't always the answer.Dignity is.You don't need to be forever enslaved to anyone.You are more confident.This book is good because it presented all forms of POV's.Whether you are a mother,a young pro in search of a lover.Or just dating.You can learn lots of stuff here. Good book! Thank you again! Create a free website with
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anastasia
2/19/2019 11:14:07 am
i'm sorry but this is totally true. the only reason a man would stay with a loser woman is if they have a fetish for poor women or anything like that.
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