"High SELF ESTEEM is not wasting your time impressing others coz you already knew you have value"SELF LOVE -means love for one's soul,is not self centerdness,innersecurity
SELF ESTEEM - evaluation of one's self either in approval or disapproval and the indication of the extent the individual believes in himself to be capable,significant,succesful and worthy We have no reason to say we are of no value for Christ has sacrificed himself for us.If Christ died for you,then why would you not see something of value or worthwhile in you? The problem with the belief of people about self love is they emphasize a negative connotation on it.It is rooted that self love is equal to unity and pride and therefore is wrong to value self love.The main problem is that self love and humility appears to be exclusively opposites.Humility is not thinking of self in low fashion but rather not thinking of one's own self."Only a person who knows how to love himself can turn attention to other people's needs.A self loving person is he who doesn't love himself at all" (Ray Ashford). God is secure so he is outside looking.Man is insecure so he is inward looking that leads or feeds selfishness.So if an individual cannot accept that God had accepted him through Jesus Christ then he is self centered concerned about his welfare. SELF CENTEREDNESS IS.... -making himself the object of all his interest and devotion -displaced God in favor of himself,setting self as God -A proud person is he who doesn't love himself very much SELF LOVE VS SELF CENTERDNESS SELF CENTERDNESS -insecure -serve others to assure acceptance and security from other people and gain approval -aim to be the best for acceptance purposes SELF LOVE -innersecurity -he serve so he can attend to others.so he can extend love and comparison to others -primary receipient of the fruit of his labor Securely loving self is extended by loving others-just like David loved Saul. "You can't love others if you don't love yourself-the way you handle others pictures how you handle yourself! " aloving atitutude to others and self hating cannot be nurtured together" "there's no room for self centerdness in humility but there is self respect" Jesus humbled himself but never humiliated himself.He laid aside his glory but not self respect.He was willing to be cursed but not cursed himself SELF LOVE which can only come as a result of forgiveness and acceptance by God is necessary to be a healthy person SIN is what pushes us not to love ourself... God intervened because he knew we are helpless Self love and self esteem depends on the foundation on how you see yourself. If you have with you a feeling of self worth,you will be contented with who you are SELF ESTEEM is the key to effective function of a person.He functions because he is not someone who always is trying to become... A low self esteem person is socially ineffective and suffers from anxiety and problems.it leads to depression and discouragement the distance between who we want to be and who we are causes damage we sometimes think the best is beyond is our reach longing for happiness evades we because I always wants what one gets.Sometimes we long for perfection not balancing the standard we set i am driven to pretend to be the person I am not because I I won't be acceptable to others if I won't compromise to the expectation REFLECTION ON THE TOPIC It is indeed true that it is tiring to force to be of service to others, to gain approval than to serve others because you know you can.Indeed self love starts from within and gives peace.Just like a child who was raised secured at home he go out and influence the kids outside.Self love is securing self.It is thinking not of self but is valuing others because he aepts himself as worthy and important that God died for. I realized I was very self centered,I thought serving others to gain approval is self love but I value more the selfishness inside me and that is so sad.The fact that Christ died for us is the biggest step forward to claim we are worthy .We have to have self esteem because we are not helpless anymore.Just like a thing that we surely like,we judge the value of it by the price we paid for surely as much as possible we keep it with much care for what it cost.How much more to a man who has to be bought with the blood of an innocent man,child of God and a redeemer?We are indeed so much valued by God! I am of value,Jesus gave his life for me! God accepts me no matter how I ignored him in my life.He accepted me for who and what I am and gave me a personal sense of worth.Knowing that nobody could separate me from the love of God.I no longer be dependent on others to get security and self acceptance. Much had been said about humility,self love and esteem.However,it is alarming we are fed with the wrong concept or belief.Almost all people fails to value self love and self esteem which we realized is supposedly to be established because it is the foundation of peace and security.We were always taught self love is selfishness but on the other hand,it's not what makes us selfish.You cannot reach out or think not of yourself if you are personally secure.However an insecure or selfish prson do things to gain approval from others.The most important thing is God conquered our insecurities and unworthiness.He valued us so much that he paid our sin trough his blood.A very good reason to love and accept our self for who we are.It is also accepting God's forgiveness that gives us the assurance of self worth. However,there might be times we use defense mechanisms to defend our esteem but extreme usage of it leads to maladjustment and abnormality even to the extent of different physical hangouts INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS -means of learning something new * positive result of discussing contributes to significant personal growth *never base your judgement on stereotypes and besides it is very biased.It destroys relationships with other people. *we should never use our physical make up as an excuse for our own inedequacies forgiving makes us masters of the situations and not victims the leaves are our old negative emotions blocking our forgiveness our problem is not stupidity but lack of objectivity.We are hurt emotionally,relationally,spiritually but because we are not aware of the extent of the wounds.We can't take steps towards healing and health SIGNIFICANCE A NO NO! *Never ever speak of insensitive responses to problematic people or comment or judge.Significance starts and ends in God fulfillment in life is not on how our ability or not depends on skills but to apply God's specific solutions to the problems...
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